Tuesday, September 13, 2005

Aches of the Heart

I cried, I wept, I sobbed... for what felt like days on end.

On Friday I felt a bit better, I told myself I needed to view this from a different perspective. I needed to look at this optimistically. I realized how excited Morgan was each time I spoke to him (for the few minutes), I realized how he was helping himself by moving, this was good for him.

I'm reluctant to write, I'm tired of crying, I'm tired of draining myself - literally (I have either strep or mono - went to the doc today she said it was due to high amounts of stress)....

So when Morgan called my job on Friday, I seemed happy (at least to him), I congratulated him on his new house (something I hadn't done) and he said thank you so much Joey. He apologized and told me he didn't mean to hurt me, that this all came about so quickly.

Where do I start all this - there's a lot most of you are in the dark about - First off - I knew Morgan was looking to move.
I just didn't know he'd really move 3 1/2 hours away, and I didn't know his move would be immediately.

I drove him to work on Friday night (to the Bar - his last night) we talked, but it wasn't the talk we really should of had. But I was ok with that - for now. I told him that I posted about him moving; I told him how you all were so amazingly supportive. He was surprised and impressed, and said just wait till I make my big come-back... lol
I asked him about our toys, he said they were boxed up, I told him he's not allowed to use them with anyone else (maybe this was dumb to say, but I wanted to see his reaction), he replied, "And who in the world would I use them with?"

.... Moving on....

Later, later, later that night (we're talking 2:45am) I went to the Bar - it was his last night there, I had to show. We all hung out, 3 shots of Petrón Tequila later, I took him home. In the car, he held my hand (something he's never really done, except during sex) he kissed me, told me he's never been in this situation. I could have said it then and there, I could have told him I loved him... but he was drunk and it wasn't the right time. We went to his house, I played and kissed The Chocolate Monster (his dog, who I'll miss very much as well), we had sex, during it he told me that this won't end, that in a few weeks I'll come up to see his new place....
Tears fell, but he didn't see, nor did I want him to.

Afterwards the silly drunk man that he was, sang me some Johnny Cash, Ring of Fire. And then I left, I didn't want to sleep over it would have been too sad nor did I want to wake up to his apartment empty and boxed - how depressing.

I spoke with him quickly on Saturday evening when he had just turned off the highway and was near his new home. I got off the phone (surprisingly) happy for him.

It's Tuesday, we haven't yet spoken and that's ok.
I miss him, I miss him so much. I'm doing better all together, but I can get upset at any given moment... I don't sleep well.
Each time I shower as I'm scrubbing my shampooed head I break down to tears, I lean against the cool shower tile, and let the hot water run down my body to my feet as I cry. I feel powerless, empty, lost, I feel like my best friend is gone, the most amazing lover is gone; the one person I trusted so dearly and so completely is gone.

I can't thank all of you enough for your kind words, and the time you took to write them, nor can I explain how much it meant to me! A special thanks to a few close blogger friends who went that extra internet mile (you know who you are).

My next post will explain a lot more about Morgan and I, why he moved, how we met and so on... till then folks.


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9/13/2005 4:34 PM  
Blogger allkindsofstaci said...

Hi Joey,

Despite the 3 1/2 hour distance, I hope things work out for the two of you! :)


9/13/2005 4:42 PM  
Blogger quanzer said...

Here's hoping that you get better and hopefully get to see him often.

9/13/2005 6:28 PM  
Blogger kelly said...

Ah, changes. Trust me I know about changes. Just so long as you keep posting. I couldn't take that change.


P. S. Turn on word verification on your comments to get rid of that nasty spam.

9/13/2005 6:37 PM  
Blogger Goose and Gander said...

Sounds seriously rough. I hope things even out soon. Try and rest, ok?

9/13/2005 7:53 PM  
Blogger chelsea girl said...

I think you two crazy kids will work it out... one way or another...

We here in cybertown, usa are all behind you, dear Joey Madison.


9/13/2005 9:07 PM  
Blogger Kit said...

Thanks for visiting our site, and good luck with your relationship.

9/14/2005 3:40 AM  
Blogger Arashi-KIshu said...


9/14/2005 6:29 AM  
Blogger Innocuous Male said...

You know we're here for you, if you need anything...

My shoulder's always available, whenever you like...


9/14/2005 9:59 AM  
Blogger Mermaid Girl said...

Darling Girl,

Thinking of you and sending you happy thoughts.


9/14/2005 10:42 AM  
Blogger Snowman said...

Distance is not the end of everything. Before I moved me and my girl had 7 hours of train between another. we survived that over a year and then I could move closer. Now we only have 1h of travel. We see eachother during the weekends and during the week we both work our asses of :-)
It all depends how much you are willing to sacrifies or as I see it, invest in your future together.

9/14/2005 2:31 PM  
Blogger magdelena said...

Sweetheart, I know this is a heartrending experience yet you are being so brave and generous about his leaving. I know those soapy-shower-head tears well enough to say with conviction that they heal, and they pass. You know where I am. M X

9/14/2005 3:03 PM  
Blogger Oswald Croll said...


Hate that your sad..... If I only lived in NYC (I am not saying I don't), I'd pour you a few stiff drinks and take you to see some hot strippers. Oh wait, that might only work on men with broken hearts. Well, the drinks would still help.


9/14/2005 3:18 PM  
Blogger straight sambucca said...

I hope it all works out for you, it must be so hard. The object of my affection often talks about leaving, and just the talk is like a knife in my heart! It sounds like you have a strong bond, so fingers crossed. x0x0x0x0x

9/14/2005 6:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Joey,

I know how hard it is as I am going through it with my lover-friend as she now has a bf and leave me for him. We'll get over it one day. Hope sooner than later. Besides, you probably could get back with him.

9/16/2005 4:13 AM  

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